Small Changes for Big Results

Visakh Vijayan
3 min readApr 11, 2024

Life is just a bunch of decisions we make. Some are good and some are not so good. The good ones bring us peace, and the not-so-good ones make us suffer. But the problem isn’t about good or bad decisions in life. Rather it is about not doing the things that bring us joy and keep on doing the things that hurt us.

A life is a work in progress. You make choices till your deathbed.

  1. Don’t involve yourself in gossip. Now you might say that you don’t gossip. Believe me, when I say, we all feel the same. Gossips start as just sharing what you got to know from some other person. Pretty soon you start adding things to it before passing it on and then realize that you are trapped because of all the extra additions you have made. As a result, you are now stuck with a bad reputation.
  2. Don’t try to satisfy everyone. Sure caring for others is good. But too much caring just allows the other person to take advantage. Say you want to care for your family and start doing things for them. This makes them utterly lazy and then when suddenly you ask them to do something they start protesting. Doing everything has made them lazy and now they don’t want to do anything. As a result, you are now stuck with a lot of liabilities.
  3. Don’t try to shower love. Everyone, including you and me, wants to improve their own lives. Just because some random couple is showing off something doesn’t mean that you have to fall in line. Only a handful of things shown on social media are true. Reel is not Real.
  4. Don’t watch unwanted news. This is the information age. Which means you have too much information to process. The magnitude is so huge that you end up knowing a little of everything which does you no good. Try to curate things that matter to you instead of reading every random article you find out there. It just clogs your brain. E.g. following politics does you no good as the biggest part for you to play is to push a button and cast your vote. It hasn’t made a difference then, and it will certainly not make a difference today.
  5. Don’t try to look/sound cool. We have been fed this notion that you have to keep struggling, keep making more money, keep becoming better than others, etc. This leads to a constant stream of materialism and comparisons. Instead, if you have your priorities set, you won’t have that problem. If you don’t believe me, just look at all the loans you have and think are they really necessary.

Keep it real and keep it simple. There are no benchmarks of living life. Live it in the best way possible and you will feel you have done justice to the 70 years you have on this planet.



Visakh Vijayan

Techie from Kerala, India. Days are for coding, nights for weaving tales of tech, travel, and finance. Join me in exploring this multifaceted journey